Feeling Torn or Trapped? How to Overcome Fear, Find Clarity, and Reclaim Your Life

What if your fear of sinking is the very thing keeping you from walking on water?

Take a moment and sit with that.

Does it hit close to home? Life has a way of putting you in a place where the possibilities ahead feel so close—you can see them, almost touch them.

The life you want, the purpose you crave, the version of you who's fully alive—it's all on the other side of that step. But when it's time to take it, fear stops you. You're torn between staying in the comfort of what you know and stepping into the unknown.

But what happens when you're clinging to that so-called "comfort zone" isn't so comfortable anymore? When staying where you are feels like a slow suffocation?

That's when it gets worse. That's when you start to feel trapped by fear, self-doubt, or the overwhelming weight of expectations and thoughts like, "What if I fail? What if I'm not enough? What if it's already too late?" And the more you hesitate, the more stuck you feel.

Here's the truth you need to hear today: Torn and trapped are not permanent states.

They're just stories you've been telling yourself for so long that they feel real. But they're not. You have the power to change them. And you're not alone in this. An incredible story about one of Jesus's disciples speaks directly to what you're going through right now.

Picture this: Peter is in a boat in the middle of a storm. The wind is howling, the waves are crashing, and suddenly, he sees Jesus walking on the water. Jesus calls out to him, "Come."

Now Peter is faced with the same decision you're facing.

On one hand, there's safety in the boat—predictable, familiar, even if it's imperfect. On the other hand, there's the unknown: stepping out onto the water, trusting that something bigger awaits him.

He's torn.

But eventually, he makes the bold decision to step out of the boat. For a moment, he's walking on water. Then fear creeps in. The wind feels more muscular, the waves rise higher, and Peter starts to sink.

He feels trapped in the chaos, completely overwhelmed.

Sound familiar? Maybe you're feeling the same pull—the tension between staying safe and stepping out, between fear and faith. Perhaps you're stuck in the middle, torn and trapped by your storm.

But here's what you need to know: Just like Peter, you don't have to stay stuck. This is your moment.

By the end of this article, you'll have clarity on what's holding you back and actionable steps to help you break free. You'll learn to overcome the fear, silence the self-doubt, and take that first bold step toward the life waiting for you.

But first, let me ask you this:

• What's your boat?
• What's the thing you're clinging to that feels safe but keeps you stuck?

Hold that thought. Because once you see what's possible, stepping out won't feel so impossible.

Stepping Out of My Own Boat of Safety!

There was a time in my life when I found myself sitting in a very comfortable, very safe boat. I was working for a well-known HubSpot agency—an organization that was highly respected and excellent at what it did. On the surface, everything looked great. I had stability, a paycheck, and a clear role in a thriving environment.

But deep down? Something wasn't right.

I felt torn.

There was a voice inside me—persistent, unrelenting—that kept asking, "Is this it? Is this what you're meant to do?" And then the more significant questions crept in:

• "What would it look like to build something of your own?
• What if you could help humans on your terms, in your way, with your voice?"

Those thoughts lit a fire in my soul, but let me tell you, they also scared me.

The idea of stepping out of that boat—leaving behind the safety of a steady paycheck and a strong reputation—was overwhelming.

Questions swirled in my head like a storm at sea:

• "What if I fail?"
• "How will I pay for insurance?"
• "Where will I find clients? Will anyone even trust me?"
• "What about payroll? Business taxes? A thousand other things I know nothing about?"

It wasn't just fear of failure but of the unknown. Staying in the boat was easier. Safer. Predictable.

But here's the truth: staying wasn't satisfying. It wasn't enough. And the longer I ignored that voice calling me forward, the more restless I became. Eventually, I faced it: the boat was no longer serving me. It kept me small, limited my potential, and held me back from the purpose I felt was stirring in my heart.

I realized that I would never know what awaited on the other side of my fear if I didn't step out. So, I stepped out.

I left the comfort and safety of that well-oiled machine and started my own business, George B. Thomas LLC. I won't sugarcoat it—those first steps were terrifying.

There were moments when I questioned everything. But as I began to take action, something incredible happened. The storm in my mind started to calm. Clients came. Systems fell into place.

The path ahead became more apparent with each step I took.

And now? That leap of faith has turned into more than I could have imagined. George B. Thomas LLC has grown into not only Sidekick Strategies, my marketing agency, but also multiple podcasts, speaking engagements, and countless opportunities to help humans in ways I never thought possible.

Stepping out of the boat didn't just change my career—it transformed my life.

This story isn't just about me—it's about you.

Maybe you're sitting in your boat right now, torn between staying where it feels safe and stepping into the unknown. Perhaps you're battling the same storm of questions, fears, and doubts I did.

I want you to know that the boat might feel secure, but it's not where you're meant to stay. There's something bigger waiting for you, just beyond the waves.

The rest of this article will walk you through the steps to break free from the feelings of being torn or trapped. We'll unpack the fears that keep you stuck, explore the tools to overcome them and help you take that bold step toward the life waiting for you.

Your story doesn't have to end in the boat. Let's dive in and create a new chapter together.

Torn vs. Trapped: What's the Difference?

Life's challenges often leave you feeling torn or trapped, but understanding the distinction between these states is crucial for personal growth.

Feeling Torn: This is when you're caught in a tug-of-war between multiple options or desires. Imagine standing at a crossroads, each path leading to a different future, and you're paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong choice.

It's the internal conflict of wanting to pursue a new career but fearing the loss of stability or desiring a healthier lifestyle but feeling the pull of old habits.

Feeling Trapped: In contrast, feeling trapped is the sensation of being stuck with no apparent way out. It's as if you're confined within invisible walls, unable to see alternatives.

This could manifest as staying in a toxic relationship because you believe there's no better option or remaining in a stagnant job because you believe you're unqualified for anything else.

Reflecting on Peter's experience, he was torn between the safety of the boat and the call to step onto the water. Once he took that step, fear set in, and he felt trapped by the overwhelming waves and his own doubts.

This mirrors how you might feel when venturing into new territories in your life—excited yet apprehensive, courageous yet vulnerable.

Consider your own life:

• What are the situations where you feel torn between choices?

• Where do you feel trapped, as if there's no way out?

Identifying these areas is the first step toward understanding and overcoming the barriers holding you back.

From A Default Life to Purposeful Living

At a point in my life, I found myself standing at a crossroads, torn between two very different paths. On one side was the life I was already living—a "normal" life, the kind of life where you just get by, check the boxes, and do what you need to do to survive.

On the other side was something that felt completely foreign and terrifying: stepping into a life of service, of intentionality, of focusing on others rather than myself.

Here's the funny part. Before all this, I wasn't exactly what you'd call "ministry material." I had been working as a bouncer at a bar.

Yep, you heard that right—a bouncer.

My job was to stand in front of doors, keep the peace, and break up the occasional fight. It wasn't glamorous, but it was a paycheck, and at the time, I thought that was enough. But something inside me felt restless.

Deep down, I knew I was living a default life—reacting to whatever came my way instead of intentionally creating something meaningful.

That's when the idea of attending school to become a pastor started tugging at my heart. I didn't grow up thinking, "One day, I'll be a Youth Pastor and Associate Pastor." But here I was, torn between staying in my comfort zone or stepping into something requiring sacrifice, humility, and an entirely new way of thinking.

And let me tell you, the internal conflict was actual.

On the one hand, I was holding onto the victim mentality I'd grown comfortable with—the idea that life was something that happened to me, not something I could shape.

On the other hand, this emerging victor mentality was calling me to be more than I thought I could be. But stepping into that life wasn't just about me. It was about my family, legacy, and the life I wanted to build.

I started asking myself some hard questions:

• What type of life do I want to leave behind?
• What do I want my kids to see and believe about what's possible?
• What would make my parents and grandparents proud of the life I'm building?
• What kind of ripples do I want my life to create in the world?

The answers to those questions scared me, but they also clarified me.

I realized I didn't want to look back on my life and see a series of "safe" decisions that kept me comfortable but unfulfilled. I wanted to leave a legacy of courage, faith, and choosing purpose over convenience. So, I made the decision. I stepped out of my default life and decided to enroll in school to become a pastor.

For three years, I juggled school, two part-time jobs, and being a husband and father.

It was one of the hardest things I've ever done but also one of the most rewarding. That struggle—to manage the weight of it all—was proof that I was living intentionally, stepping out of the trap of indecision and into a life of service.

And here's the thing: while I eventually transitioned out of ministry, the lessons I learned during that time shaped everything about how I live and lead today. It taught me the power of choosing others over myself, the importance of legacy, and the incredible growth that comes from navigating through the things that tear and trap you.

This story reminds you that you don't have to stay stuck in the default life. Feeling torn doesn't mean you're incapable—you're on the edge of a decisive decision.

So, let me ask you: What's pulling at your heart?

What's calling you to step out of the "default" and into your purpose?

Let's explore that together.

By recognizing whether you're feeling torn or trapped, you can begin to address the root causes of these feelings and take proactive steps toward change. Remember, acknowledging these emotions is not a sign of weakness but a courageous act of self-awareness.

The Cycle of Overwhelm: Why You Stay Stuck

Feeling torn or trapped doesn't happen in isolation. It's part of a larger cycle—a pattern that keeps repeatedly pulling you back into the same struggles. The truth is, you're not stuck because you cannot change.

You're stuck because the overwhelming cycle has convinced you that staying put is safer than moving forward. Let's break this down.

Torn Leads to Overthinking

When you're torn between two or more options, your brain goes into overdrive. You analyze every possible outcome, every risk, every "what if." But instead of finding clarity, you end up paralyzed by decision fatigue.

Studies show that the average human makes around 35,000 decisions a day, and when major life choices pile on top of that, it's no wonder your mind shuts down.

Here's the kicker: overthinking doesn't lead to better decisions. It leads to no decision at all. You stay frozen, replaying the same mental loops, hoping clarity will magically appear.

Spoiler: It doesn't.

Trapped Leads to Avoidance

When you feel trapped, the cycle shifts from overthinking to avoidance. You stop looking for solutions because the situation feels impossible. Instead, you focus on just surviving the day, numbing yourself with distractions or burying your head in the sand.

Sound familiar?

Maybe you tell yourself, "I'll deal with it tomorrow," or, "This is just how life is." But the longer you avoid taking action, the more trapped you feel. Your comfort zone starts to shrink, and the idea of stepping out becomes even scarier.

Fear Fuels the Cycle

At the root of it all is fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown. Fear convinces you that staying stuck is safer than risking discomfort. It whispers lies like:

• "What if I take the wrong step?"
• "What if I fail and look foolish?"
• "What if things get worse instead of better?"

This fear-driven mindset creates a loop: torn leads to overthinking, overthinking leads to inaction, inaction leads to feeling trapped, and feeling trapped leads to more fear.

🔎 Mastering Fear: How to Understand and Harness Your Emotional GPS

Let's go back to Peter. When Jesus called him to step out of the boat, Peter hesitated. He was torn between the safety of what he knew (the ship) and the uncertainty of what he didn't (walking on water). But he leaped. For a moment, everything was fine—until fear set in.

The wind felt more muscular, the waves looked higher, and Peter's focus shifted from faith to fear. That's when he began to sink.

Like Peter, when you focus on the size of the storm instead of the strength of your purpose, you start to sink. And the longer you stay stuck in this cycle, the harder it becomes to imagine a way out.

How to Break the Cycle

The great news? The cycle of overwhelm isn't a life sentence. It might feel like a constant weight, but it's not permanent. The first—and most potent—step to breaking free is simply recognizing it. You take back your power when you become aware of the patterns keeping you stuck. Awareness shines a light on the fear, doubt, and habits feeding the cycle, and with that clarity, you can start to rewrite the story.

Breaking free begins when you confront what's holding you back and believe a different way forward is possible.

Ask yourself:

• "What decisions am I overthinking?"
• "What situations am I avoiding because they feel too overwhelming?"
• "What fears are holding me back from taking even one small step forward?"

Awareness is power.

Once you see the pattern, you can start to disrupt it.

The Cost of Overwhelm and the Shift to Healthy Hustle

There was a point early in my career when I wore hustle like a badge of honor. I was deep in the trenches of the inbound marketing world, working with Marcus Sheridan at The Sales Lion.

If you knew me back then, you'd know I wasn't just a fan of hustle culture—I was practically its poster child. I was a card-carrying Gary Vee "hustle your face off" community member.

Every day was a grind; I didn't just embrace it—I lived for it.

People even gave me a hashtag. #GSD. It stood for Get Sht Done,* and I'll be honest, I loved it. It validated everything I did: late nights, early mornings, and a never-ending stream of projects and meetings.

The Hubcast podcast listeners used the hashtag to cheer me on, and I thrived on that energy. But here's what no one tells you about hustle culture: It's not sustainable.

At the time, I didn't care. If I push harder, grind longer, and keep saying yes to everything, I'll get to where I want to be. But the truth was, I wasn't chasing success—I was running myself into the ground. And eventually, my body gave out before I did.

The Breaking Point

The breaking point came one ordinary day when I started feeling unwell. I ignored it, of course—there was always another email to send, another meeting to lead, another project that couldn't wait. But before I knew it, I was in an ambulance on my way to the hospital.

And here's the part that still shocks me to this day. As the EMS wheeled me out of the house, I looked back at my wife and said, "I don't have time to deal with this—I have a meeting in 10 minutes."

Let that sink in.

I was being loaded into an ambulance, and all I could think about was my to-do list. The meeting. The hustle. The grind. It had consumed me so completely that I didn't even recognize how far gone I was.

I ended up in the hospital for three days.

Three days to sit and reflect on what had happened.

Three days to realize that the very thing I thought was propelling me forward was tearing me apart.

The Turning Point

When I got out of that hospital, I made a decision: Never again would I let hustle come at the expense of my health, family, or purpose. I wasn't going to stop working hard—don't get me wrong—but I still believe in putting in the effort and chasing big goals.

But moving forward, it had to be a healthy hustle.

What does a healthy hustle look like? It's a hustle that taps into your hunger and ambition without sacrificing your well-being. It's about setting boundaries, listening to your body, and prioritizing what truly matters.

It's about learning to say no so you can say yes to the things that align with your purpose.

For me, it meant rethinking how I approached my work. I started focusing on working smarter instead of just harder. I began asking myself, What's truly essential? What's moving the needle?

And I gave myself permission to rest.

To pause.

To acknowledge that my worth isn't tied to how much I can check off a list in a single day.

Here's the thing: Overwhelm doesn't come out of nowhere. It builds, piece by piece, until one day you wake up and realize you've been swallowed by it. For me, it was hustle culture.

For you, it might be something else—saying yes to too many commitments, avoiding hard conversations, or letting fear drive you into a cycle of overthinking and inaction.

But I want you to know that you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle. Recognizing the overwhelmed is the first step to breaking free. Once you do, you can start building a life where your hustle doesn't hurt you but helps you flourish.

My story is just one example of how easy it is to get trapped in a cycle of overwhelm, driven by fear, expectations, or the pressure to do it all. But it's also proof that you can break free.

Let's explore how to recognize the cycle in your life, identify what's driving it, and take actionable steps to move forward with clarity and purpose. Because here's the truth: Hustle alone isn't the answer. It's about balancing hunger and health, ambition and alignment. And you can get there—one intentional step at a time.

Let's keep going. Where are you in the cycle?

Are you overthinking a decision, avoiding an uncomfortable situation, or letting fear keep you frozen? Please write it down. Get it out of your head and into the light to start addressing it.

Root Causes: Fear, Limiting Beliefs, and Lack of Clarity

If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like you're spinning your wheels, it's not because you're broken or incapable. It's because invisible forces—fear, limiting beliefs, and a lack of clarity—are at play.

These are the root causes of why you feel torn or trapped, and they work together to keep you stuck. Let's break them down one by one.

Fear of Change

Fear is the most primal force keeping you stuck. It whispers, "Don't risk it. Stay safe. What if it all goes wrong?" It's the part of your brain designed to protect you, but sometimes, it gets in the way of your growth.

When Peter stepped out of the boat, it wasn't the waves that made him sink—fear.

Fear made the wind seem more substantial and the storm more dangerous. The same thing happens to you. When you try to step out of your comfort zone, fear amplifies every "what-if" scenario until moving forward feels impossible.

How Fear Shows Up in Your Life:

• You stay in a job that drains you because you fear starting over.
• You avoid difficult conversations because you're so scared of conflict or rejection.
• You hesitate to try something new because you're afraid of failing—or worse, succeeding and not knowing how to handle it.

Here's the truth: Fear will always be there, but it doesn't have to control you. It's not about eliminating fear but learning to move forward with it.

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are the lies you've accepted as truth. They're the invisible scripts running in your mind, shaping how you see yourself and the world around you.

They sound like this:

• "I'm not smart enough to do that."
• "I'm too old to start over."
• "I don't deserve to be happy."

Where They Come From:

These beliefs often start in childhood, shaped by your environment, experiences, or even well-meaning advice. Over time, they become deeply ingrained, operating on autopilot and dictating your choices—or lack thereof.

🔎 Aditional Resource: The Big Leap

When Peter began to sink, it wasn't because he couldn't walk on water—it was because he doubted he could. His belief in himself crumbled when he took his eyes off Jesus and focused on the storm. Limiting beliefs work the same way in your life. They convince you you're incapable, even when the evidence says otherwise.

How to Spot Your Limiting Beliefs:

• What do you tell yourself when you think about taking a bold step?
• Are those thoughts empowering or self-sabotaging?
• Do they start with "I can't," "I shouldn't," or "I'm not enough"?

Lack of Clarity

Let's be honest: If you don't know where you're going, how can you know what step to take? A lack of clarity can make every decision feel overwhelming because there's no clear direction. It's like standing at a fork in the road without a map or compass.

How Lack of Clarity Keeps You Stuck:

• You hesitate because you don't have a clear vision of what you want.
• You spend more time weighing options than taking action.
• You feel busy but aren't making meaningful progress.

When Peter kept his eyes on Jesus, he was clear about his direction. The storm didn't matter, the waves didn't matter—his focus kept him moving forward. But the moment he lost clarity, fear took over, and he began to sink.

Clarity isn't just helpful—it's essential.

How to Overcome These Root Causes

Breaking free from fear, limiting beliefs, and lack of clarity starts with awareness.

Here's how:

1. Name Your Fear: Write down what scares you most about stepping forward. Is it a failure? Rejection? Uncertainty? Fear loses its power when you shine a light on it.

2. Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs: For every limiting thought, ask yourself: "Is this true?" Replace those lies with empowering truths. For example: Replace "I'm not good enough" with "I'm learning and growing every day."

3. Define Your Vision: What do you want your life to look like? Get specific. Write down your goals, values, and the kind of person you want to become.

Clarity doesn't have to be perfect, but it does have to be yours.

What fear, belief, or lack of clarity keeps you stuck right now? Write it down and ask yourself: What's one small step I can take today to address it?

Breaking Free: Your Step-by-Step Guide

Now that you know what's holding you back, it's time to break free. The cycle of overwhelm, fear, limiting beliefs, and lack of clarity might feel like an unshakable weight, but here's the truth: you can dismantle it one small step at a time.

It won't happen all at once, and it won't always feel easy, but the key is forward motion—no matter how small. Let's explore a step-by-step process to help you step out of your boat and into your purpose.

Step 1: Gain Awareness

You can't change what you don't acknowledge. The first step is to be brutally honest about what's keeping you stuck. Are you torn between choices? Are you trapped in a pattern of avoidance? What fears, beliefs, or doubts are holding you back?

Take 10 minutes to journal your thoughts. Answer these questions:

• What am I torn between right now?
• What feels like it's trapping me?
• What fears come up when I think about taking action?

Peter had to decide whether to stay in the boat or step out. For him, the first step was acknowledging the call to action. For you, the first step is recognizing where you're stuck.

Step 2: Reframe Fear as Growth

Fear isn't your enemy—it's a sign that you're on the edge of something meaningful. Instead of letting fear paralyze you, learn to see it as an opportunity to grow.

Ask yourself: What's the worst that can happen if I take this step? What's the best that can happen?

Chances are, the potential reward far outweighs the risk.

Write down one thing you're afraid to do (e.g., having a tough conversation, applying for a new job, starting a project).

Next to it, write:

• The worst possible outcome.
• The best possible outcome.
• One thing you can do to prepare for success.

When Peter stepped out of the boat, he feared the waves—but his growth came from stepping out anyway. You build resilience and courage every time you face fear and act.

Step 3: Take One Bold Step

It's easy to get stuck in analysis paralysis, waiting for the "perfect" moment. But here's the truth: there is no such thing. The way to break free is to take one bold, imperfect step.

It doesn't have to be big—it just has to be intentional.

Think about the area where you feel most stuck. What's one small action you can take today to create momentum?

For example:

• Send an email you've been avoiding.
• Schedule that meeting.
• Spend 15 minutes researching your next move.

Peter didn't wait for the storm to calm down before stepping out—he acted despite the chaos around him. You don't need all the answers to move forward; you just need to start.

Step 4: Stay Focused on Your Vision

Once you've taken your first step, distractions will try to pull you off course. Doubts will creep in, and the waves of life will feel overwhelming. But staying focused on your why and vision will keep you moving forward.

Write down your "why."

• Why do you want to break free from feeling torn or trapped?
• Why does this matter to you?

Keep this visible—on your desk, phone, or even as a sticky note on your mirror.

Peter began to sink when he took his eyes off Jesus and focused on the storm. When one stays anchored to one's vision and purpose, the noise around one loses its power.

Step 5: Create Accountability

Breaking free isn't a solo journey. Find someone who can hold you accountable—a trusted friend, mentor, or coach who will remind you of your goals and encourage you when the road gets tough.

Share your next step with someone you trust. Ask them to check in with you about your progress and hold you to it. Even when Peter began to sink, he reached out to Jesus for help. In the same way, reaching out to others for support is a strength, not a weakness.

What's one bold step you can take today to break free from the cycle of being torn or trapped? Please write it down and commit to action within 24 hours.

Moving Beyond Fear: Into Flow and Alignment

Fear and doubt are loud, aren't they? They shout over your dreams, scream at your bold ideas, and drown out your confidence. But no one tells you that fear is only loud because you're listening to it.

The moment you shift your focus from fear to flow—from doubt to alignment—you silence the noise and create momentum that feels natural, even exciting. So, how do you move beyond fear and step into flow?

The Concept of Flow

Flow is when everything feels right—when you're not forcing progress but experiencing it. It's when you're fully present and engaged, working with purpose rather than against resistance.

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes flow as "Being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one."

For a brief moment, Peter experienced flow. He stepped out of the boat, focused on Jesus, and walked on water. He wasn't analyzing the storm or questioning his decision—he was simply moving in a way that aligned with his purpose. Fear only crept in when his focus shifted.

Flow happens when you stop overthinking and start trusting. It's not about eliminating challenges but being so aligned with your purpose that the obstacles don't overwhelm you.

How Fear Blocks Flow

Fear thrives on two things: distraction and doubt. When you focus on what might go wrong or how hard the journey looks, you pull yourself out of alignment. You can't move forward if your mind is consumed by "what-ifs." Fear blocks flow by keeping you in your head instead of moving in your heart.

How This Shows Up in Your Life:

• You procrastinate because you're overwhelmed by the magnitude of a task.
• You obsess over perfecting every detail, paralyzed by the fear of making mistakes.
• You second-guess every step, afraid that one wrong move will ruin everything.

The next time fear starts shouting, pause and ask yourself: What's the next step I can take right now?

Flow begins when you stop worrying about the entire journey and focus on the next step.

Shifting Your Focus: From Fear to Faith

To move beyond fear, you must shift your focus from the storm to the purpose driving you forward. This is where faith—whether in yourself, your vision, or something greater—becomes your anchor. Faith is the antidote to fear because it reminds you that you're stronger than you think and are not walking this path alone.

Peter sank when he focused on the storm, but the moment he reached for help, he was lifted back up. Faith didn't make the storm disappear—it made Peter stronger than the storm. In the same way, your belief in yourself and your vision will keep you moving, even when the waves seem high.

Write down three things you trust:

• Trust in your ability to learn and grow.
• Trust in the support system or higher power guiding you.
• Trust the process, even if you can't see the full path.

Building Momentum Through Alignment

Flow isn't about hustle or force—it's about alignment. When your actions align with your values and purpose, progress feels like a natural extension of who you are. It's not effortless, but it doesn't feel like a constant uphill battle, either.

How to Find Alignment:

• Get clear on your values: What truly matters to you?
• Align your actions: Are your daily choices reflecting those values?
• Trust the process: Are you letting go of perfectionism and embracing progress instead?

Take 5 minutes to reflect: "Is what I'm doing today aligned with the person I want to become?" If not, what slight shift can you make right now?

Embracing Discomfort as Growth

Here's the thing about flow: It doesn't mean the absence of discomfort.

Growth is uncomfortable.

Stepping out of the boat will always feel risky, but discomfort is the price of progress. The more you embrace it, the faster you grow.

Peter didn't wait for the perfect moment. The storm was raging, and the wind was howling, but he stepped out anyway. The discomfort didn't stop him—it propelled him into a more incredible experience. The same is true for you.

The next time you feel discomfort, reframe it as "This isn't fear—it's growth. I'm stepping into something bigger." Write this down and repeat it to yourself when challenges arise.

• Where is fear holding you back right now?
• What would it look like to focus on flow instead of the storm?

Write down one small action you can take today to shift into alignment.

Escaping the Torn-Trapped Cycle of Life

If you're ready to step out of the boat and break free from the cycle of feeling torn or trapped, this is where the rubber meets the road. Knowledge is necessary, but action is where transformation happens. The key? Start small, stay consistent, and trust that every step you take moves you closer to freedom.

Here's a system of intentional actions to help you move forward:

Identify Your "Boat"

The first step to escaping the cycle is recognizing what's holding you back. What are you clinging to because it feels safe? Your boat could be a job draining your energy, a relationship no longer aligning with your values, or even a mindset keeping you stuck.

Take out a piece of paper or open a note on your phone. Write down: "What is my boat? What am I holding onto that feels safe but keeps me stuck?"

Be honest.

This isn't about judging yourself—it's about gaining clarity.

Peter's boat was his comfort zone. Staying in it felt safe, but it wasn't where he was meant to be. What's your boat? And what's calling you to step out of it?

Define Your "Why"

You won't move forward without a strong reason to do so. Why do you want to break free? What's waiting for you on the other side of fear? Maybe it's a life that aligns with your values, a career that lights you up, or simply the peace of knowing you're living with intention.

Action Step: Write down your "why." Keep it short and powerful. For example:

• "I want to feel energized by my work."
• "I want to set an example of courage for my kids."
• "I want to live in alignment with my purpose."

Peter's "why" was clear—Jesus called him, and Peter wanted to follow that call.

What's your "why"?

What's pulling you forward, even through the fear?

Take One Small Bold Step

You don't have to overhaul your entire life in one day. The key to breaking free is taking one intentional step forward—no matter how small. This first step isn't about perfection; it's about creating momentum.

Look at your "boat" and your "why." What's one action you can take today to step out of it? If your boat is a draining job, your step might be updating your resume or reaching out to a mentor.

If your boat is "afraid" of failure, your step might be starting that project you've been avoiding.

Peter's bold step was stepping out of the boat. He didn't wait for perfect conditions—he moved, and that mattered. What's one step you can take today to create forward motion?

Build a Support System

You don't have to do this alone. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you, hold you accountable, and remind you of your strength when doubt creeps in. These could be trusted friends, mentors, coaches, or an online community.

Identify one person who can be part of your support system. Reach out to them today and share your goals. Let them know how they can support you—through encouragement, accountability, or simply listening.

Even when Peter began to sink, he reached out to Jesus for help—and Jesus lifted him.

🔥 Asking for support isn't weakness; it's wisdom.

Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection

Breaking free isn't about getting everything right. It's about making progress—one step, one decision, one moment at a time. Celebrate each step you take, no matter how small it seems.

At the end of each day, reflect on one thing you did to move forward. Please write it down or say it out loud. Progress builds momentum, and momentum builds confidence.

Peter may have started sinking, but he took the step. That's what matters. Even if you stumble, celebrate the fact that you're moving.

What's one bold step you can take today to break free from the torn-trapped cycle? What support do you need to stay consistent?

"You Know What Time It Is" 

It’s your time to act. No more overthinking, no more waiting for the perfect moment.

Here's your challenge for today:

1. Write down your "boat."
2. Define your "why."
3. Take one bold step toward change.
4. Share your plan with someone who will hold you accountable.

Remember: The storm isn't more substantial than you. The waves aren't higher than your purpose. The boat may feel safe, but it's not where you're meant to stay. It's time to step out and start walking.

Real-Life Stories: Breaking Free from Feeling Torn and Trapped

Discussing strategies and steps to overcome feelings of being torn or trapped is one thing, but seeing these principles in action can be truly inspiring. Let's explore real-life stories of individuals who faced overwhelming challenges and felt stuck in their circumstances yet found the courage to break free and transform their lives.

James Bode: Navigating Personal Turmoil

James Bode, co-founder of Beck Bode, experienced a series of life-altering events that left him feeling lost and overwhelmed. His youngest child's diagnosis with Type I Diabetes, the passing of his father, and the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic all occurred in quick succession, shaking his sense of stability. These challenges forced him to reassess his priorities and focus on what mattered. Through introspection and a commitment to his family's well-being, James found a renewed sense of purpose and direction.

Key Takeaway: Even in the face of multiple adversities, reevaluating your priorities and focusing on what truly matters can lead to personal growth and clarity.

Ben: Overcoming Despair Through Vulnerability

Ben's story is a profound example of how internal struggles can lead to feelings of entrapment. Battling deep-seated depression and contemplating suicide, Ben felt isolated and hopeless. A pivotal moment came when his family decided to move out of state, providing a change of environment. Attending a church camp, Ben found the courage to share his experiences openly. This act of vulnerability became a turning point, allowing him to connect with others and begin his journey toward healing.

Key Takeaway: Opening up about personal struggles can be a decisive step toward healing, breaking the chains of isolation, and finding support.

Henri Junttila: Embracing Stillness to Overcome Stagnation

Henri Junttila, a writer at Tiny Buddha, often felt stuck during inactivity. Instead of resisting these phases, he began to perceive them as natural parts of life. By surrendering to these quiet periods and practicing acceptance, Henri discovered that these moments offered valuable lessons and opportunities for self-reflection. He learned to enjoy stillness, eventually leading to renewed creativity and motivation.

Key Takeaway: Embracing periods of stillness and accepting them as natural can lead to profound personal insights and renewed energy.

Bella Thorne: Transforming Trauma into Advocacy

Actress Bella Thorne faced significant challenges, including the death of her father at a young age, experiences of abuse, and the pressures of child stardom. Through therapy and self-reflection, she confronted her past traumas and channeled her experiences into advocacy work. Bella's journey highlights the power of transforming personal pain into a driving force for positive change.

Key Takeaway: Confronting and processing past traumas can lead to personal empowerment and the ability to inspire and advocate for others.

These stories illustrate that feeling torn or trapped is a common human experience, but overcoming these feelings through introspection, vulnerability, acceptance, and transformation is possible. By taking intentional steps and seeking support, you can break free from the cycles that hold you back.

• Which of these stories resonates with you the most?
• What steps can you take today to begin your journey toward freedom and fulfillment?

Practical Tools and Resources to Break Free

Transformation doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't happen without the right tools. Whether you're feeling torn, trapped, or stuck in the cycle of overwhelm, having practical resources to lean on can make all the difference. This section is about equipping you with strategies and tools to regain clarity, take action, and sustain progress.

Journaling for Self-Awareness

When caught between options or trapped by circumstances, the noise in your head can make it hard to think clearly. Journaling is a powerful tool for untangling thoughts, identifying patterns, and making sense of emotions.

How to Use It:

• What am I afraid of right now?
• What's the worst that could happen if I take a step forward?
• What does the life I want look like?

Free-write for 10–15 minutes without judgment.

Let your thoughts flow, and don't worry about structure.

Why It Works: Writing down your thoughts allows you to take them out of your head and see them for what they are—often, they're less overwhelming than they feel.

Mindset Shifts Through Affirmations

Limiting beliefs are like bad habits, which take time and intentionality to change. Affirmations are a way to rewire your thinking, replacing negative thoughts with empowering ones.

How to Use Them:

Identify a limiting belief you've been holding onto (e.g., "I'm not good enough."). Replace it with a positive affirmation:

• "I am capable of learning every day."
• "I dare to take the next step."
• "I am stronger than my fears.”

Repeat these affirmations daily—write them down, say them out loud, or place them where you'll see them often.

Why It Works: Consistent repetition of affirmations helps you challenge and reframe your stories.

Visualization for Clarity

If you're struggling with clarity, visualization can help you connect with the life you want to create. It's not about "magic thinking" but about focusing your mind and aligning your actions with your goals.

How to Use It:

• Find a quiet space where you can sit undisturbed.
• Close your eyes and picture your ideal life. What does a day in this life look like? How do you feel? Who are you with?
• Write down the details of what you saw, and identify one small step you can take toward that vision.

Why It Works: When you can see where you're going, it becomes easier to take the steps to get there.

The Power of Accountability

Breaking free isn't a solo journey. It's essential to have someone who can hold you accountable, encourage you, and call you out when fear or doubt creeps in.

How to Use It:

• Choose a trusted friend, mentor, coach, or support group.
• Share your goals and the steps you're taking to reach them.
• Schedule regular check-ins to track progress and troubleshoot obstacles.

Why It Works: Accountability partners help you stay on track and remind you of your "why" when fear tries to pull you back.

Embracing Progress Over Perfection

The most important tool you can use is grace. Progress doesn't mean perfection—it means showing up, trying, and moving forward, even if messy. Celebrate every small win, and remind yourself that you're stronger than you think.

At the end of each day, write down one thing you did to move forward.

Big or small, it all counts.

• Which of these tools or resources resonates with you the most?
• What's one action you can take today to start using it?

Step Out of the Boat!

Let’s get real for a second. Everything you've read today, every insight, every tool, every story comes down to this: What will you do with it?

Because here's the truth: Nothing changes unless you do. No matter how many articles you read, no matter how many strategies you learn, no matter how much clarity you find—if you don't take action, the boat you're sitting in will always feel safe, and the waves will always feel too big.

But here's what I know about you: If you've made it this far, you do not settle for safety over growth. You wouldn't still be reading if part of your heart wasn't already saying, "It's my time."

And it is. It's your time.

Right now.

The Reality Check: The Boat Isn't Safe

Think about the "boat" you're clinging to right now. Maybe it's a job that's draining your soul. Perhaps it's a relationship that doesn't align with who you're becoming. Maybe it's a fear of failure, a belief that you're not good enough, or a pattern of avoiding what scares you.

Whatever it is, let me tell you something that might sting a little: That boat?

It's not as safe as you think it is.

It's keeping you stuck. It's keeping you small.

It's keeping you from living the life you were created for.

• So, what are you going to do?
• Are you going to sit there, letting fear whisper lies into your ear?
• Or are you going to take that first bold step?

The Invitation: Take One Step

Peter didn't wait for the storm to stop. He didn't wait for the waves to calm. He didn't wait until he felt completely ready. He stepped out right in the middle of the chaos because he knew what was calling him forward was more significant than what was holding him back.

What's calling you forward? What's the one step you can take today? Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today.

• Maybe it's sending that email you've been avoiding.
• Maybe it's finally having that conversation that scares you.
• Maybe it's sitting down and writing out your vision for your life.
• Maybe it's picking up the phone and calling someone who can support you.

Whatever it is, please do it. Don't overthink it.

Don't wait for perfect conditions.

Don't let fear talk you out of it. Just take one step. Because here's the thing: When you step out, even if you stumble, even if you sink a little, you're moving. And movement creates momentum. Momentum creates change.

Change creates freedom.

So here's your challenge: Take everything you've learned today and make it count. Don't let this be one of those articles you read, nod along with, and then forget about. Let this be when you look back and say, "That's when everything changed."

1. Write It Down: What's your "boat"? What's keeping you stuck?
2. Define Your Why: Why does breaking free matter to you?
3. Take One Bold Step: What's your first action today?
4. Get Support: Who can you reach out to for encouragement and accountability?

The waves will always be there.

The wind will always blow.

But you have a choice. You can let the storm keep you stuck or trust that you're more potent than the storm. You can trust that stepping out—even if it's scary—is always better than staying stuck.

So step out.

Take the risk. Walk into the life waiting for you because you're worth it. Your dreams are worth it. Your purpose is worth it.

The question is: Will you say yes to the life you deserve?

Step out. The life you've been waiting for is waiting for you.

Resources to Keep You Moving Forward

Here are a few tools and resources to support you on this journey.

Books:

• “The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield—Overcoming resistance to step into your purpose.
• "Atomic Habits" by James Clear—Building small habits that create significant results.
• "Rising Strong" by Brené Brown—Navigating failure and getting back up with courage.

Apps:

• Day One: A journaling app to track thoughts and progress.
• ThinkUp: An app for creating and listening to personalized affirmations.
• Forest: A focus app to help you stay present and productive.

Podcasts:

• "The HubHeroes and Beyond Your Default Podcasts" by George B. Thomas—Aligning personal development with professional success.
• "The School of Greatness" by Lewis Howes—Stories and strategies for achieving greatness.
• "The Mel Robbins Podcast"—Practical advice for taking action and overcoming fear.